“The best thing about the future is that it comes only one day at a time.” ~Abraham Lincoln
If you squint your eyes hard enough (I mean really hard!) you might to see a young boy fishing on the stern of the windsurf board while his dad used the wind to navigate to the other side of the bay. It reminded me that people are tied to our journeys in life. Those people can be those who are close to us. Those people can be those we have never seen before.
The fact is that we all have influence on others. Some are directly affected and some are indirectly affected. Are you intentional about who and how use your influence? Yes, you do have influence whether you accept it or not. As you are heading to your next destination or goal who are you bringing along with you? Who gets to fish at the stern of your board?
“The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.” ~Audrey Hepburn
Who’s your others? When will you hold them? How will you hold them?
“I look up to the mountains- does my help come from there? My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth!” ~Psalms 121:1-2 NLT
What is the one thing you want to do before the sun goes down today?
With one kid already a grown-up and 2 more just about to enter their teens, I am milking up the moments I have with them in this stage of their lives. I recently went with my ladies to the closest beach to catch a sunset. As I watched them let the end of the shorebreak touch their toes, I realized that I still get to the watch them play.
I was formulating my list of “still get to’s” to maintain a thankful heart. I don’t know of any scientific studies to support the benefits of being thankful. I just know from experience that having a grateful heart is good for the soul. I know you have experienced the same thing.
I still get to see my children play at the beach. I still get to sit with my wife and talk about a tv show. I still get to drive a car that works. I still get to eat a couple of fish tacos with a co-worker because that means that I am employed. Since I do have a job, I get to get ready for work and take a shower as warm or cool as I want it.
You get where I am going with this? Having a healthy perspective of your life means you’re likely to have a healthy soul. A healthy soul contributes to your overall well-being. God’s Word says so in 3 John 1:2,
“Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.”
Now it’s your turn. What are your “I still get to’s?”
“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”
A poem for all hearts this Valentine’s Day…
A word to the young,
Yours can be fooled
Usually when you’re foolish
Wreckless and never ruled.
A word to those who are gray,
Before you lay to rest
Stop pining for yesterdays
And make today your best.
A word for the lonely,
Don’t be offended by my tone
Sharing your journey is a choice
So is staying alone.
A word to the lost,
Open your eyes
And commit to find your way
Instead of living on lies.
A word to those who are filled,
Help us sift the truth from the tales
Warn us about chasing after empty dreams
And remind us that love never fails.
Fishing can be a joy. It can also be very frustrating. Part of fishing is failing to catch a fish. Does it keep us from fishing? For many people, including me, yes, I admit.
Failure is a part of life. Some failures hurt more than others. Losing a pick up basketball game may not hurt as much as losing a business venture. Losing a friend’s phone number may not hurt as much as losing a friendship. Divorce, termination of employment, failed investments are just a few of many events that we may experience. They can be devastating, and the effects can last a lifetime.
If you’re like me you’ve been told since you were a small child these words, “Don’t give up. That’s actually Bible talk. Proverbs 24:16 says, “The godly may trip seven times, but they will get up again..”
First, call it like it is. If it’s a failure, then that’s what it is. Humility is the antidote for denial. Denial may be an automatic first response. Take the time to thoughtfully own it. Own your mistakes and misjudgments. Wouldn’t you agree that most failures are the result of self-inflicted wounds? If you’re like me, most of my mistakes aren’t really mistakes. They are results of poor judgement and decisions against wisdom. If so, then “man up.” Own it.
Second, draw out the lessons to keep yourself from repeating the errors. Most likely, your issue is a heart issue not a thinking issue. As a person gets skilled in fishing, he switches to a different bait when he realizes the current bait isn’t working. It’s probably time to switch your method of doing things.
Next, make a plan to make a comeback. Be determined to comeback. Then plan it out. Get counsel from friends and mentors who can tell it to you straight. It may not be the exact same endeavor as the one that failed. It may not be the same relationship that you once valued. Count it a comeback.
If you don’t go fishing you won’t catch a fish. Be willing to fail before you succeed. Failure is part of the process. Those you fish know this very well.
To get some divine inspiration read about how Jesus restored Peter even though Peter denied even knowing Jesus when Peter was confronted about his relationship with Jesus. Peter had previously claimed that he would lay his life down for Jesus. He willfully failed Jesus. Jesus already planned to give Peter a second chance. Don’t you love second chances? You can read this account in the John 21 here https://www.bible.com/bible/116/JHN.21.nlt
Your feedback is important. What is your call to action? What are you going to do that’s different. It’s time to make a comeback.
Don’t DIY Your Life. DIWG. Do it with God.
As I watched this elderly man walking the streets of L.A., I remembered a Jewish Proverb:
A man’s heart plans his way, But the Lord directs his steps. ~Proverbs 16:9 NKJV
We were never meant to do this journey alone. DIY home projects or car repairs are great. I just fixed my toilet this morning by looking on YouTube. It took me 2 minutes! Don’t DIY your life.
God has blessed us with a free will and a creative mind to take amazing adventures and accomplish great deeds, but He had always intended for us to be in a relationship with Him. In that relationship with Him, we can see the world with a wider lens. We can see the bigger picture. We can find His purpose for us.
I can start with a simple prayer today, “God, show me the way I should go today. I want to know you and your purpose for me.” It’s possible that seemingly nothing earth-shattering will change for you immediately afterwards. However, it’s more about yielding to the One who supplies the very air you breathe.
This is what Jesus taught his followers about the daily things we worry about.
“And don’t be concerned about what to eat and what to drink. Don’t worry about such things. These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers all over the world, but your Father already knows your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and he will give you everything you need.’
Read more in context here https://www.bible.com/bible/116/LUK.12.22-31
Don’t DIY your life. DIWG. That is, Do It With God.